We are already at the halfway point of January, which is insane and basically means 2016 is pretty much over. Awesome! Jokes aside, my 2016 is off to a fantastic start. I was promoted at work, have some exciting trips to look forward to, already set some 2017 goals, and I discovered DJ Khaled on Snapchat (obviously the most exciting).
A question was posed to me about a week ago: What are the three things you are working on to kick 2016’s ass? Great question, right? Well I figured I’d share my answers. Partly because this blog is all about sharing and also studies show that it’s a great idea to write these things down somewhere for accountability and to help with manifestation.
In my first post I mentioned that I had a large problem with vulnerability and that this blog was going to be a tool to help me combat that. So far it’s been doing just that. It’s become easier to write and share pieces of me. While I don’t want to be a bleeding heart, leaving heart guts everywhere I go, I do have a desire to form deeper relationships to help build my support group beyond FaceTime calls and iMessage convos with friends located hundreds of miles away. I know if I want new and deeper relationships, it will require me to continue opening up and being ok with that risk. No risk, no reward, right?
I’m a hard worker, that’s something I will claim for myself. However, that hard work is usually at the benefit of others because I like helping people and I get joy from making people happy. With that being said, I don’t necessarily execute this same discipline and gusto when it comes to my own personal projects. I’m good for saying “Oh I’ll do it tomorrow.” which is a lame and terrible excuse. First, step is admittance right?
I have many interests and ambitious goals, as I’m sure many of us do, but one of the major keys (#DJKhaledism) to achieving those goals is self-discipline. In mastering self-discipline, I think I’ll be able to better hone in on my true interests vs infatuations and as result better guide myself to my purpose and passions. Isn’t that what all us Millennials are out here trying to do? Admittedly, saying “I’m going to master self-discipline” sounds very lofty and abstract. To combat that I’m taking time to identify the areas I’m currently interested and associated goals and breaking them down into less overwhelming tasks (I’m sure you’ve heard that piece of advice before).
This blog is (again) another great example. I want to be more disciplined in creating content so my first step was to get a calendar and begin carving out intentional time to write and develop posts, versus flying by the seat of my pants and ultimately saying “I’ll do it tomorrow.” in the midst of my frenzy.
3. Further Discovering the Beauty of Being Alone
I’m not sure when or how it happened, but overtime I was conditioned to not do things alone. Not many parents want or let their children run off by themselves, primarily for safety reasons, so you spend most of your formative years consistently doing things with other people, think play dates, field trip buddy systems, and group mall trips. You always had to have someone else with you. The shift to becoming comfortable alone began in undergrad when I had to eat my first meal…alone. It was lunch and I felt super weird and self-conscious as I grabbed my food and settled into a table. The feelings began to subside and I soon realized, no one cared.
While solo dining in college is pretty common, the experience flipped a switch for me. It’s to do things alone. So my sophomore year, I promised myself I would strive to become comfortable doing as many thing as possible by myself. While still in school, I really only mastered shopping and eating in the dining halls alone but in post-grad life I’ve had to kick it up a notch because the real world is not really designed for solo-ing. Once again I’ve had to force myself back into the discomfort and self-consciousness of being alone and guess what? I’m still alive. From going to museums, to eating at a restaurant or going to a movie, I’ve managed to do all these tasks alone and I’ve loved every second of it. So while this isn’t a new goal it’s a comfort I want to continue cultivating.
What are your goals for 2016? Feel free to share them in the comments! I can even be your accountability partner. As DJ Khaled prophetically says, “Let’s win more!”